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Friday, January 30, 2015

Five

How do I do it? Which I get ALL the time. Well let's go through an average day for myself. 
Wake up at 645 get the girls ready for school, baby fed and changed, start the car and leave out the door for 8am school. Get back home and put Parks down for a nap (usually in the swing but we don't judge right?) Then I re clean the tornado everyone left in the house. Shower or just get myself and Laken ready. Do a couple loads of laundry and fold them. Call my sister in the states some days because both of us have the busiest lives ever. Feed Laken and I lunch somewhere in there. Tend to Parks if he's fussy, feed him, change him... You get the idea. Then at 215 we leave to get the girls. On gymnastics/dance days which is is 2 and 3 times a week we come home and all 3 older girls get their dance/gym stuff on, scarf down a snack and we run downtown to drop Kyla off to gym. Then up back to dance, drop the twins off, then go home for about 15 mins then pick the twins back up again. Then home and eat supper which usually I have to have cooking or in the slow cooker or it's something quick to throw together. Try and fit homework in there somewhere... Then we go get Kyla for 7 and come home. Bedtime snack for the younger ones and supper for Kyla, then pjs, brush teeth and bed for 8. Then Kyla bed because she likes to take her sweet time. Then Parks bed... 
I get to clean up the tornado once again and then my now new routine includes a workout even a quick one matters and then I watch a show or two and then bed! LOVE my show time. I've been watching Greys on netflix and it's my happy time. I have lots I pvr as well so I'm always good to go.
That's an average day for us. 
These are a few key things for myself to stay sane. 
1. Constantly tidy. If you leave it it becomes a huge job later and that really sucks. 
2. Make your kids help with the tidying! This one is huge. We live in a smaller place so it gets messy FAST. Also they need to appreciate how to take care of a home and respect it. 
3. Plan meals and prep. Ok I slack on this one sometimes and I always regret it but it helps so much when I do this! 
4. Get yourself ready everyday, even if it's throw on some simple makeup and freshen up that hair. I've been experimenting with my makeup these days and I'm loving it. Simple shadow, blush, mascara, brows (a must!), and lipgloss. You'd be surprised how quick it can be and it makes you feel so much better! 
5. Have a good husband. ;) I could NOT do it without Dustin. Plus he has an amazing new shift that let's him be home a lot more and it's a life saver. 
6. On down days where they aren't busy with activities, get the bigger chores done. Bathrooms etc. 
7. When you do a load of laundry FOLD IT and PUT IT AWAY! This one took me a long time to actually get in the habit of and since I've done it it's made a world of a difference!! And it's not even that hard. Who knew!?
8. Take time for yourself!! Everyone is different in what works and I still sometimes don't always know what I need to get that me time but it's very important.
9. Make your kids afraid of you. Just kidding. Well kind of. Discipline is THE most important thing when being and parent and it's probably the hardest! You're kids need to respect you as the parent and it may come across as mean but you are the PARENT first not their friend. Too many kids these days have no respect for adults and mine will not be those kids. I think this has been a main reason why I have well behaved kids. I LOVE the book written by Michelle Borba called the Big Book of Parenting. It's awesome. Any problem you're having with your child is in there and it tells you exactly how to deal with it. I can't suggest it enough. 

So those would be my main points on "how I do it". It's chaos some days and I the first 3 months of Parks life are kind of a blur but we made it through and are back into a normal life routine. 
I got married young and had kids young and pretty much had to learn as I went. I had to figure what worked and what didn't. I try not to let the little things get to me. I said "try" Dustin, so stop looking at me with those judgey eyes! 
My kids are amazing. I couldn't have 5 kids without them being so well behaved and I'm forever grateful for that. Don't get me wrong there are days where I'd pay someone to take them. Kyla and Laken will be the ones to give me grey hairs I'm sure of it! I rarely sit here and make my kids crafts or bake with them. Ain't nobody got time for that. I teach my kids to be creative on their own and not depend on me for keeping them entertained. My kids could be in an empty room and still keep themselves happy. 
I'm definitely not "super mom" as I hear all the time. I fail. I wanna give up. I threaten to run away at least once month and you'd be entertained by the texts I send my husband some days. But. I love my life, I LOVE having a big family! It's the best decision we've ever made and I'm so lucky to have this family. It's constantly changing and we are growing together and we have one amazing future to look forward too! But if one more person asks me if I'm having another baby I may punch them. The answer is HELL. NO. This body is done. It's maxed out. It's stretched out. And my sanity is hanging in there, so let's not push it. K? K. 

Saturday, November 08, 2014

Amnesia

No body tells you these things ya know. On what to expect when becoming a parent. The list is a mile long and that's just for me! Can you imagine the list for each parent out there? Every kid is different so then the way you parent is different.
It's funny what we take for granted. I've been through this baby thing before but we get this disease as moms where you forget everything right after it happens. Such as delivering a baby, waking up a million times in the night, or hauling around a car seat, which by the way I have bruises on my leg from. For real, numerous bruises! Who makes these things? They should be shot. At least pad the sides or something genius. I'll invent it. I already patent the idea so don't steal it.
Before Parks was born, I got a full nights sleep, I got to shower everyday, I was even bored a lot. I know, who's bored with 4 kids?? Me. Well I ain't bored no more! You know how I always got comments on "how do you do it?!" Or "you must be so busy!" Well I was busy but honestly my kids are so independent and really well behaved, and I taught them to be like that, that I had the time I needed to shower, cook, clean (which is so overrated by the way, like who does that anymore?) but I was sane. These days, not so much! As I type this my 3 year old is yelling at me "mom I got a really big poop out, it's so big! Come wipe my bum." Awesome. So while I'm nursing I wipe the bum. It's all about multi tasking. 

Anyways, this brings me to my baby. He is colic. We thought at first he had reflux and he's still on the meds but nope nothing changed. I got him another appointment because my sanity was going out the window and yep he's colic. I haven't had a colic baby before so this is all new to me. I guess 1 out of 5 is pretty good. It's a good way to seal the deal too! If anyone wants to invent a medication for colic, you'd be a millionaire.
But for reals, I'm going insane. Some days are better, some are bad, and some are holy hell I'm gonna jump out of the moving car into oncoming traffic bad. 
Ok that's a little exaggerated, I take back the oncoming traffic. 
Some things are timed so perfect. Dustin just got switched this week to a new shift. It's 6 on, 6 off. He will get 6 days off in a row! All my sanity can come back! He's on his last night shift then 6 days off. I told him I'm taking a good break while he's off, see ya in a year or so, I think I pumped two bags of milk for him, you'll be good. By the way, no one tells you, pumping sucks. I've always hated it. I literally have two tiny bags pumped and those become gold ya know. I'm very proud of those bags. 

I always said, I'm not having kids just for right now I'm having them for the future. 
I can't wait to have this big family to watch grow up and everything that comes with it. My love is spread to so many people and I couldn't be happier. (Well aside from all the colic shiz) All the sleepless nights and raw nipples are worth it. These little people friggin rock. 

That's all for now. I needed something to pass the time for these night shifts and that's what's on my mind. 
Looks like I'm back to blogging! 



Thursday, November 06, 2014

Parks

I have a son. 
I also have 5 kids! It sounds crazier when you say it out loud. That's a lie, it IS crazy. But I love it. 

I figured it was time to document his birth story before I forget it. Because that's what happens when you have babies, you forget things. And I had 5, so I'm screwed. Try remembering your kids birthdays AND birth years when someone asks on the spot. Bad mom. Bad. Anyways back to the story. I woke up at about 6am with some cramping but didn't think anything of it because it happened a lot and would just go away eventually. Dust was off but he had a side job he left to go do at about 8. I had a prenatal appt at 11 and Dustin was going to be back home to watch the girls. I showered and started getting ready when I clued in the cramping was getting stronger. It hit me I could be in labour. So I text Jill to see if she could take the girls so Dustin could come with me to my appt. Ya I still wanted to go because my labours are very long so I figured I have plenty of time if I was and he could tell me at my appt and I could go home for a bit. So we went to my appt and at this point I was having to breathe through contractions. The doctor was at the hospital and the wait could have been hours (usually is) so they told me to just go to the hospital which was a block away. So we did. Got checked and put on the monitor and yup was in labour but early labour, I think I was 2-3cm. So she told us to go to the cafeteria and grab some food and come back. So I decided we should go home instead, pack bags for the girls and get what I needed. Still contracting away. We dropped off the girls bag and I was hungry so we went to Tim's and got food. Who doesn't do that? But Dust made me stay in the truck so I wasn't having contractions in line... Anyways, a couple hours later we went back to the hospital. I was 4cm... Told ya, long ass labours. So they decided to admit me and then said they'd help me get going by breaking my water in the next little bit. I got admitted at about 1pm. We waited and waited, I walked a bit and paced the room. There was only one doctor on call and he ended up getting called to back to back emergency c sections. I think it was 6 or 7 and my contractions got really strong so she checked me and I was 4-5. Killer. At about 11 the doctor finally came in and broke my water. Half hr later my contractions were getting painful so I decided to get an epidural because I was exhausted. I needed to rest a bit before baby came. Got the epidural and a little but later they put me on the drip. I fell asleep as soon as the epidural kicked in for about an hr. They checked me and I was still 5cm so that's when they started the drip while I was sleeping. 30 minutes later I was screaming in pain and yelling at the nurse that the epidural wasn't working. She checked me and I was 9 almost 10 cm. She told me to turn on my side and within minutes I said I was needing to push. Doctor was in there and I started pushing. One push and his shoulders were out, he actually told me to stop in the middle of pushing... Then told me to cough and he was out! It was long then super insanely fast! I went from 5-10cm in 30 minutes and I felt it all! Oh and our photographer barely made it, she walked in as I was ready to push! She was lucky to get the pics she did because it was so fast. She came earlier to take some pics while I was in labour then left for a bit. 

So that's his story. 
Parks Dustin Francis 
6lbs 10oz and 20in
Sept 13th 2014 3:40am 

Dustin chose his name and I loved it. It was set since I was a few months pregnant. 































We love this little man to death! 
More posts to come. Lots to catch up on! 

Monday, June 09, 2014

My pregnancy necessities

So I figured since this is the last time I'm probably going to be pregnant, i'd document a little more about it.

I'm a simple gal. Well for the most part... Anyways, I don't have very many "needs" while i'm pregnant but here is a list of what I DO need! 

1. Diclectin- I am sick every single pregnancy. This time it hit me a little later but because I was so sick, I was pretty sure it was a girl again. So I take diclectin the entire time. If I think I'm in the clear, I stop taking it and pay the price. Kind of like today. Although I didn't decide to stop taking it, I just fell asleep two nights in a row in bed while watching tv. I gave Dustin the responsibility of making sure I take it and my prenatal vitamin. He is so much better at it than I am. Except when he falls asleep in bed too! So i'm sure feeling it today. The crappy thing is even if I take it in the morning, it does nothing! So I'm pretty much sick the whole day...

2. Coconut oil- This pregnancy is the first time I used it but I rub it on my belly after I shower. I love it! It's oily but meh. Not that I care about stretch marks since too much since I already have them but maybe I'll be lucky and the old ones will just re stretch again and I won't get new ones! Does that happen? I dunno. 

3. A tan- When I first got pregnant I warned Dustin that I was going to do everything it takes to make myself feel better while pregnant. One thing I wanted was spray tans. I feel so much better when i'm tanned! So I got a few and they were awesome but they are pretty expensive so I invested in a self tanner and it is AMAZING!! I will never spend money on a tan again. It's called St. Tropez Bronzing mousse. It is the nicest color! Even just one coat is a nice simple glow and if you want to be darker a couple days later put more on. It's not orange at all. I got it at shoppers and it was $50 but worth every penny. It doesn't rub on on my clothing or wash off after one shower. It really is awesome stuff.  

4. Get ready- I get asked ALL THE TIME, "How do you have the time to get ready with 4 kids?" Well I make time! My kids are used to me taking that time to get ready so they never bother me, I've trained them well ;)  I feel WAY better when I get ready. Even a small freshen up. Wash face, makeup and a messy bun and put something decent on. Sweats and a cute tshirt totally count! As long as I feel half dressed i'm good. Lately it's about comfort when i'm home so I live in my sweats or black sweat shorts and a T or tank. Done. 

5. Slurpees- enough said.

6. A good wardrobe- This is something I didn't have before and I felt so gross the entire pregnancy. It's so important to have clothes you feel good in, especially pregnant! I'm a budget shopper so I have made a couple orders to Pinkblush and they have THE cutest maternity clothes and the best prices by far! Anything else I have boughten is from regular stores in larger sizes. But it makes such a difference to have clothes I actually feel good in! Also I have bought a few pair of pants that aren't maternity but I purchased the Baby Belt. That thing is genius. I highly recommend that. 

7. Baths- I can't say enough how much I love baths when pregnant. That pressure in my back and hips from the belly pulling and growing kills. I especially love the "kicked in the crotch" feeling. If you've had it, you know what i'm talking about. Anyways so at the end of the day when everything hurts I jump in the tub. It works EVERY TIME. I can't stay in long so it's only like 5-10 minutes and i'm out. ha. But seriously, they rock. 

8. My other half- Can you believe I've been pregnant 3 times before now and never had a pregnancy pillow?! Me either. So this time I invested in one. It's the BEST thing i've ever bought for pregnancy. BEST! It takes the cake. The one I got is called the Snoozer and man alive, just thinking about it makes me want to go get it. That thing has changed my life and also replaced my husband in the bed. Thank goodness we have a King. See you in 4ish more months honey. 

So that's all. 
My sister wanted a belly pic last night so I sent her this. I couldn't leave out my other half. Can you feel the love?

You're welcome.



                            

Thursday, June 05, 2014

Jayci and Presley's Bday!

This year I wanted to keep birthdays simple. Main reason being i'm pregnant and last year I went all out so I didn't feel like doing that again this year. Besides I don't want my girls expecting extravagant parties every year. I decided to do their party at Menchies! How fun right? You pat per kid and they decorate for you, you get a tshirt to color, party hat, and menchies in a waffle cone. They also clean up for you! It was worth every penny and i've spent more than that on home parties. It was great! We were also lucky enough to have Sarah come to face painting for us. She is amazing! I will hire her anyday! So that was an awesome bonus for the kids. It was easy, fun and the kids had a blast. My kind of party!

Be prepared for lots of pics. I actually used my real camera!








Yes the twins are tall. They are in the 90% for height or something...










 





Awesome face painting eh?
















So they asked for Furblings for their bday and I've told them over and over no. Kyla got a Furby for her bday and I said one is enough. But the day before their bday we were in walmart and they were just sitting there on the shelf. I had too. Besides their bday morning Jayci's like, "I know what we are getting for our birthday, a furbling!" So thank goodness I got them. I think they were a bit excited! 









We also got them our original plan of new bikes! They can't even ride them. They still have training wheels on their small bikes. The next nice day we are teaching them on the smaller bikes with no training wheels! I'm determined this year. Last year I just wanted to pull my hair out. ha.



Our family pic went over good... Thanks Laken! 


Good times. I didn't even care. 

So that's it! I would highly recommend having a party at Menchies anyday!! Happy 6th birthday girls!! 



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